Private testing
This app is currently in private testing. Do not use for emergencies, violence, stalking, coercion, or unsafe relationship situations.
A neutral place to clarify what was said, what was heard, and what may need repair.
The Third Chair gives couples a calm, neutral space to record a consensual conversation together — then understand what was meant, what was heard, and where a little repair might help. It does not take sides, and it never decides who is right.
Private by design. Both partners must consent before anything is recorded or analyzed.
How it works
Five steps, with consent at the center
The process is deliberately slow and even-handed. Nothing is recorded or analyzed without both people choosing it.
Both consent to record
Recording only begins after both partners give explicit, mutual consent. Either person can decline or stop at any time.
Record your conversation
Record the conversation together, right in the app. Prefer to bring your own? Pasting or uploading a transcript is always available as a manual option.
It's transcribed for you
The recording is transcribed and separated by speaker, so you can both read back exactly what was said.
Both confirm consent to analyze
Before any reflection is created, both partners confirm consent to analyze the transcript. Nothing is analyzed until you both agree.
See your clarity report
A neutral, framework-informed reflection separates what was said from what was heard, and gently names what may need repair — never who was right.
Our principles
Built to clarify, never to adjudicate
- Neutral by design
- The Third Chair does not decide who is right. It reflects what was said and what was heard so both people can see the conversation from a shared, even-handed vantage point.
- Consent comes first
- Nothing is reviewed unless both partners have knowingly agreed. Consent is explicit, mutual, and can be withdrawn at any time.
- Clarity, not verdicts
- The goal is to surface intended meaning, received meaning, and the places that may need repair — using calm, plain language rather than diagnosis or labels.
- Yours to keep or delete
- Your conversations are private to your couple space. You can remove your data at any time from Settings.
Safety first
For relationships where both people feel safe
The Third Chair is built for mutual, consensual reflection. It is not a tool for surveillance, pressure, or proving a point.
Please read before you begin
The Third Chair is intended for relationships where both people feel safe and are participating freely. It is not appropriate for use in relationships that involve coercion, abuse, surveillance, retaliation, or fear for your safety. Do not use this tool to monitor, pressure, or build a case against a partner.
If you do not feel safe, or if agreeing to review a conversation feels unsafe, please stop here. Your safety matters more than any conversation review.
If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services. The Third Chair cannot help in an emergency and does not provide crisis support.
Ready when you both are. Create your couple space →